Monday, August 8, 2011

Bloggers, Consider Yourself Hugged

Spotted while walking back to Penn Station in New York City,
immediately following the 1st annual Book Blogger Convention (May 2010).

Maybe it's because I've been somewhat out of the blogging loop for the last week or so, but, well ... I can't help noticing something a bit amiss here as I catch up with my Google Reader.

I mean, did someone spike the water here on the Interwebs or something? Because we all seem to be having a collective blogging and reading mid-life crisis.  (I read a lot of blogs, and while no one niche is immune to this, I'm noticing it most in the book blogging world.)

By "we," I mean that in the broadest possible sense. Not saying that everyone is experiencing this, but more than a few posts seem to be ... well, somewhat worrisome.

And by worrisome, I mean that in the hand-wringing sense of the blogger feeling not good enough, or not measuring up to some standard or expectation.  We're not a good enough writer, we're not reading/posting/commenting enough, we don't have as many followers as Blog X, we're feeling lost and directionless, we're in a reading/blogging slump, we've lost our focus (if we even had it to begin with), we're not sure why the hell we even started doing this blogging thing in the first place.

Believe you me, I'm not immune to this angst. I've certainly been there.  Am STILL there, in some ways. Will be there again.  So this is not a holier-than-thou kind of post. Far from it.

If you're going through this, I absolutely understand.  I think it's actually natural to look at others and compare ourselves to our peers.

But it makes me feel bad to see y'all feeling bad, if that makes any sense.  I mean, I just want to give y'all A BIG OL' HUG.  To say that whatever you're doing or not doing with your blogs or your reading or your writing or whatever is troubling you IS OK.  You're doing FINE.  There's way too much to worry about in this world to be worried about what others are thinking or doing, you know?

Maybe this is just the way we types are wired.  Maybe this is just part and parcel of this blogging world of ours. Maybe it comes from reading too many posts from know-it-all's who proffer posts like "Why Your Blog Sucks" or "5 Ways to Make Your Blog the Next Big Thang." Maybe it's a seasonal sort of thing - with Book Blogger Appreciation Week coming up, or the "new year" of kids going back to school, or several of us celebrating blogiversaries.

Whatever the hell it is, it just seems as if there are more than a few folks suffering from Notgoodenoughitis and it bothers me that you're all feeling all down on yourselves and your work.

Hence, this post.

So, keep on doing what you're doing.  Or change things up if you'd like.  Or ... whatever.

And if you recognize yourself in this post, consider yourself hugged.  You're doing just fine.

copyright 2011, Melissa, The Betty and Boo Chronicles If you are reading this on a blog or website other than The Betty and Boo Chronicles or via a feedreader, this content has been stolen and used without permission.


Teresa said...

What a wonderful and kind post. I think for me it has come from a period of several weeks in which not only comments were down, but general page hits were down. The second round came when the BBAW nominations opened. I am a small very general blog and while I like to think I do a good job, I will be very surprised to receive a nomination. I didn't self nominate last year because I still felt like a newbie, so I was looking forward to being able to call attention to myself and my achievements this year.

Thanks for the hug, I needed it.

Karen Harrington said...

Well, said! Consider yourself hugged in return.

Kim (Sophisticated Dorkiness) said...

Thanks for this post Melissa. Hugs back to you as well :)

Melissa said...

Aw . . . THANK YOU! I *definitely* needed that hug. :-D

Michelle (Red Headed Book Child) said...

Word. Thanks Melissa!

I consider myself in the "oh crap I don't comment enough" variety.

Serena said...

Thanks so much for the hug. I just need one with this full plate of job, blogging, and baby!

Beth Kephart said...


K A B L O O E Y said...

I'll take a half hug. Just back from BlogHer. (With its Melissa-shaped hole. Missed you.) Whereas after last year's event I would have needed a double-dose hug, this year I'm mostly ok with my small spot in the blog-o-verse. Maybe the older and wiser-ness that nearing 50 has brought to the rest of my life is finally seeping down into my blogger life. Whatever the cause for the newfound equilibrium, I'll take it. How are you??

Yogi♪♪♪ said...

Great post,
I've noticed a similar trend with some bloggers worrying about their numbers.
I think bloggers are at their best when they are just themselves rather than trying to target this or that market. I look at personal blogging as more of conversation that we are all in with other bloggers rather than a competition against other bloggers.

Lisa said...

I had one of those posts. I don't worry about my numbers, but I do feel oddly left out when comments vanish. I hate BBAW week. I really do. It feels like such a popularity contest for the cool kids. I'm sure it's sour grapes on my part, but the whole thing makes me want to leave the internet for the week.

Anastasia @ Birdbrain(ed) Book Blog said...

I think something about summer causes us all to freak out about things that don't need freaking out about. Hugs for everyone~!

Book Dragon said...


Elizabeth said...

Right back at you -- the hugs and all!

Booksnyc said...

great post and thanks for the words of encouragement. I took an unexpected blogging break recently due to some health issues and am slowly getting back into it and trying to remind myself to do it at my own pace.

Hope things are going well for you!